Wednesday, December 07, 2005

Milus Oedipus Rex

I don't know exactly when and how, but we suddenly got there: the oedipian phase! It started with a tooth ache a few weeks ago, and Milo being particularly grumpy and needy, grognon as they say in French. There weren't enough cuddles to soothe him, and sleeping time kept moving later and later in the evening...He woke up a few times in the middle of the night in panic (surely a nightmare, we thought naively), and there he is now regularly coming in our bed at the oddest hours! And we lay there, sleepless and cornered on the hedges of the bed for the rest of the night...

This week I was determined to correct this nasty little habit and set the rules straight again: by 9 pm Mr. Milo must be in his sweet little bed. Well, on night 1, the little mister tricked me into staying by his side until 10:30! Exhausted, famished and puzzled, I had nevertheless developed enough motivation to play harsh mama the following night. So, after a good half hour of cuddles, book reading and singing, by 9:30 I tell him sweetly but firmly that he is a big boy now, and he can fall asleep alone. I leave the room while he performs some of the most impressive ear piercing screams of his entire life (the neighbors must think we torture him) and I barely managed to reach the kitchen when I heard his little steps frantically following me: there he stood , sobbing in tears, calling me with heart broken voice: "Mamma, mamma!" and hugging my legs for dear life. The little critter had managed to jump off his crib!!! I was in shock, it was as if I saw a ghost...How did he get out of the bed? He could have fallen on his head...And once again, by the time I calmed him down and cuddled him to sleep, it was 11 pm. And by 5 am he was again between us...

Last night I threw the towel and confided the task to Milo's dad, who seems to have a better success rate: by 10:15 the rascal was down! A slight improvement, I must admit! And when he called in the middle of the night, I went to check on him, but put him back down in his own bed. He did not protest.

I am worried, though:
1. He is not getting enough sleep...He has never been a big sleeper, but this way he gets a maximum of 9 hours of sleep per night (+ 2 in the afternoon nap). Shouldn't he sleep longer, at 19 months?
2. His bed jumping stunt frightened me. What if he keeps on trying it? If we take the bars down now, we condemn ourselves to entire nights spent chasing him around the house! For now I surrounded his bed with pillows, just in case...

...and I also started looking at king size beds!

5 comments:

giovanni said...

Oh, this is a lovely story bringing me back to the times my kids needed me so much that they kept me awake half the night! Oh, I am missing those sleepless nights! You know, I think little Milo is just preparing for a career in a circus, or in theatre, or as a lover (calling attention to his loneliness)... On a more serious note, kids usually don't fall on their heads and if you are afraid of that, learn them how to fall. I would worry about you getting enough sleep. Shifts between you and your husband are a common solution. Take care and all the best, Giovanni

Alice in Austria said...

Oh Clo. (hugs!). Guess why I am sitting here all bleary-eyed and sleepy? Because my little Crankypants kept us awake half of the night screaming his head off: teething AND a cold (stuffy nose and coughing). We tried to do everything to get him to sleep but the only thing that made him shut up for, like, 5 minutes, was if I bend over the crib and pat his back. So now my back hurts as well for crouching over the crib for such so long, lol.

To make a long story short: you have no idea how much I sympathize! ;)

Alice in Austria said...

Ack. Of course I know how to write proper sentences. (Not "such so long" but "so long". I am just tired!!!

Clo said...

Giovanni,
you really MISS those nights?! I agree with you on Milo's potential for a career in entertainment! But his faithful public would like to sleep too, from time to time...

Sophie,
you have all my understanding and encouragement...especially dealing with two! Last night we broke down: we went out for dinner and I asked the nanny to stay over and put him to sleep. HE is an absolut ANGEL with her...so whe fell asleep at 9 without a peep, and woke up this morning at 8 am laughing! What a relief...Hang in there, sister, it's only for a few more years!!!!!!

Alice in Austria said...

Hang in there, sister, it's only for a few more years!!!!!!

LOOOL!!! :)